Have you ever met someone who was simply awesome?
I believe that no matter what you look like, how much money is in your bank account, where you live, what you drive, or how much education you have, you can be awesome! It’s pretty simple if you follow these three steps:
1. Check the mirror. Take a good long look at yourself in a full length mirror before you leave your house. If you don’t like what you see, don’t change clothes (although that may help) but instead, change your attitude! What is on the inside of you is revealed on the outside of you. There are so many beautiful people who don’t have model shaped bodies, high cheek bones, beautiful eyes, face, and hair. They are just average, normal people who have a great attitude and it shows!
What do you see when you look in the mirror? What does your posture say about how you regard the world? Are you defensive? Does your facial expression reveal bitterness, caution, and fear? What about your choice of clothes? Are you drawing attention to yourself or hiding behind your fashion?
How do you walk? Head up, chin out and with purpose? Or do you shuffle along with your head down like you have no where to go and no one to talk to?
What does your speech reveal about you? Do you curse or bless? Are you mindful of proper grammar or do you flaunt your lack of education? (“What my name is?”)
Making sure your attitude is awesome is as easy as looking in the mirror. Check it out! If your image doesn’t scream awesome – then change it!
2. Assume rapport. Many people walk around concerned about what other people think about them. It makes us nervous to think we are being sized up and judged all the time. What I have discovered is that most of the time, the person is too busy thinking about themselves and wondering what others think about them to be at all concerned with you!
So the fact is, you don’t have to worry about what people think of you – because most likely they aren’t thinking about you at all!
I normally wouldn’t advocate any type of assumption. Assuming things usually makes a mess in relationships. But there is an exception – it is safe and wise to assume rapport. Whom should you assume you have rapport with? Everyone you meet! The entire world, in fact. If you make it a habit of thinking that the person you are speaking with likes you, enjoys your company, and wants to be your friend – then most likely they will! In fact, if you face the world with the same assumed rapport, you find it to be a warm and caring place.
Assuming rapport with the world changes you and how you respond to others. Your demeanor and confidence level will improve. Your energy toward others will get higher and your conversation and expressions will reflect the type of person that anyone would call awesome!
3. Keep reaching forward. Keep growing. I used to grow a considerable amount of house plants. Then somehow my life grew too busy and complicated to proper take care of them, so I downsized! Right now I only have two plants in the house, and both of them are pot-bound. Have you ever seen a plant that had outgrown its pot? It’s not a pretty sight. If you keep a plant in the same pot, year after year, the roots have no where to go and it makes growing and thriving almost impossible for the plant. You can tell right away because the leaves are dull and of course there’s little or no change in the plant.
This is what happens to us when we stop growing. We become dull and lifeless. If you want to be awesome – you must make sure you are always learning, always growing, and always expanding your reach. Awesome people always have something new to talk about, they learn things, they experience new things, and because of this, they are more interesting to others.
As you can see, being awesome is pretty simple. Make sure your attitude is properly expressed on the outside, assume rapport with others, and continue to grow!
